Nervous or Excited? It’s All Perspective

Think about a time you’ve been nervous: visualising failure, heart racing, palms sweaty. I bet your mind and body have slipped back into that moment—even if just a little.

Now, think about a time you were excited: visualising success, heart pumping, hands clammy.

So, what’s the difference between the two scenarios? I’d argue—it’s perspective. In one, you adopt a negative mindset and label your physiological reactions as “nerves” or “nervousness.”

But here’s the thing: nervousness and excitement are almost identical physiologically. The difference between the two lies in how you interpret those feelings. One is embraced, the other feared. It’s a psychological distinction.

Take this example: I recently started boxing. The moment I signed up for a class, I was hit with a wave of dread. Why? I chose to do it. I wanted a new hobby, to improve my fitness, and to learn to defend myself. So why was I so “nervous” about going?

Because my mind interpreted my body’s response—racing heart, shallow breath—as something negative. That interpretation triggered a spiral: my body fuelled anxious thoughts, which in turn amplified my physical symptoms.

I didn’t want to go. What if I made a fool of myself? What if I got paired with an experienced boxer?

But then I reminded myself: life begins outside your comfort zone—and that’s where growth happens.

Once I committed to going, nerves or not, I asked myself: how can I get into the right mindset?

The answer? I faked it until I made it. Every time I felt “nervous,” I told myself aloud: “This is exciting.” Then I followed it up with a positive reason for going:
“I’ll sleep well after a tough workout tonight.”
“I’m one step closer to learning a new skill.”

What you say afterward doesn’t matter as much as the reframing itself. Label the nerves as excitement. Say it again and again. With practice and repetition, the shift happens. Over time, excitement grows stronger than fear, and that’s how you build the courage to show up—and expand your comfort zone.